21 March 2018

DEALING WITH DIFFICULT THINGS


I'm the sort of person who, given half the chance, will ignore certain things in my life if I am tired, overwhelmed or just unsure on how to handle them. Sometimes things just get a bit much don't they and, during those times, it is super easy to bury your head in the sand and wait for the storm to pass (which it usually does, only to spring up ten times stronger somewhere else!).

I am learning so much having my own business to promote and often find myself really picking myself to pieces over the things I haven't done yet and, it was only when I heard someone on a podcast say 'we (small business owners) are just one person trying to do the job of several people rolled into one' that I realised that I needed to give myself a bit of time to get my head around this whole business thing. I am always going to be the type of person who thinks I should know how to do everything immediately and I should be able to do it all perfectly. I mean, how high do I want to set this bar of mine? The fall is sometimes so great that I take days to recover, rather than setting realistic expectations for myself from the start! As a result I end up feeling disconnected, not good enough and generally a bit of a failure.

As you will see, if you watch my latest vlog (linked at the bottom of this post!), I got so fed up with my mood last Friday, that I sat and wrote down everything that was whirling about in my head and just looked at it all individually. A lot of what I wrote down were things I hope to achieve; positive, inspirational goals and dreams that I want for my business or for myself, but they had turned into something I was struggling with because I have so many ideas in my head that I don't move forward on any of them. That causes frustration and puts out any fire of creativity I have, so I decided that I would just write all my ideas down and start working on them in a logical way... item one on the 'how to deal with difficult things' list! I always find list-keeping a way of keeping my head in order and that is why keeping a Bullet Journal works for me so well. I really like to see my tasks ticked off and feel a huge sense of accomplishment when I do everything on my list.

Another way I like to deal with difficult things is to start the day right. I am a huge believer that if you start your day by jumping right on into the worry and angst of work, or whatever it might be, that your brain just stays in that mode and it is very hard to bring back a more positive vibe. Most days I do some form of exercise in the morning; usually I get to the gym by 6.30-6.45am and get my training done and it feels so good (once I'm there and warmed up!). I feel so invigorated after a workout that I am ready for my to-do list and energised for the day ahead. 
A new thing that I have added to my morning routine thanks, once again, to Gemma Sands, is a little peppermint essential oil. I heard Gemma talk on her podcast, about how she pops a couple of drops of peppermint and wild orange oil onto her palms each morning and rubs them together, taking a few deep breaths to help invigorate and energise the body. Gemma sent me a little set of oils for my birthday and I have recently started using the peppermint for this exact thing each morning, followed by a ten minute meditation all about bringing abundance into your life. I don't know whether the oil is responsible, but I haven't had my 2 o'clock 'slump' hit me since using it... I will keep you posted on that!

Part of the reason why I am talking about how to deal with difficult things, as and when they come up, is all about self-development. This year I am consciously trying to heal some of the patterns that I have seen occur over and over again in my life and, to get over them, I think I need to face them head on. It is so hard and very draining to pick yourself apart but when you do it, and realise what you learn, it is so freeing. Podcasts really help me to dig a bit deeper into my psyche; some favourites are Gemma's 'Free to Flourish Radio', Julia Treat's 'Stepping into the Light' (a more spiritual one), and Lori Harder's 'Earn Your Happy' podcast, but there are so many good ones out there. I want to be captivated when I listen to a show and feel so much better about myself and learn ways to not 'sweat the small stuff'. 

What do you guys to when you are faced with something that really tests you in life? I am totally up for any tips and tricks you may want to share in the comments!

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