31 January 2018

THE STORIES WE TELL OURSELVES



This week (27th Jan - 3rd Feb) is National Storytelling Week, which got me thinking about how, as kids, we told ourselves the most magical stories everyday, acting them out, totally lost in our own dreamy worlds. In those worlds we could climb the highest mountains, ride beautiful horses with flowing manes, have adventures with fairies up gigantic trees and fly though the air like superheroes. It's funny how all of our stories were full of limitless possibilities; we were lost in our moments, we could do anything and our imaginations were our only limit. So, why is it that, as adults, in the cold light of 'the real world', most of us tell ourselves stories about how we cannot reach our biggest dreams, that we aren't good enough to reach for the stars and how we will never 'make it'. 

Along with people judging us and telling us 'you need to have a normal job', or telling us what we want in life is 'too risky', our own minds seem to have turned against us too! They have developed that irritating little voice of 'what if' and 'I can't', which we just didn't have as kids, so we stop telling ourselves the fabulous, magical stories of grand adventure and start telling ourselves that we shouldn't do the things we want. We tell ourselves new stories of 'I can't {insert your dream here} because I don't know where to start/don't know how' or whatever other excuse we can think of to remain in our blanket of cosy (but boring) safety. I think what we need to learn is to be committed to our dreams but we also need to understand that being committed to them has to be fully backed up by US, because no one else but us is going to be able to achieve them.

No one is going to rock up at your front door one day and hand you everything you need on a plate and just thinking and dreaming about your plans won't bring them into fruition either (believe me, this one I tried for way too long!). What do we have to lose by telling ourselves big old happy stories every day; stories about fun, abundance and about shooting for the biggest, brightest stars? If you reach and fall, just get right back up and try a different approach because, as soon as you see 'failures' as lessons, it really is a game changer. Of course, none of this is easy, especially to start with, and sometimes it is f**king painful (which is the place most of us quit at) but just keep going, keep learning and growing and doing whatever it is you need to do to reach your 'happy'.

If you liked this short and punchy number (!) then let me know in the comments and, just in case you missed it, you may also like a post I wrote recently called 'Interested Verses Committed', check it out!

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28 January 2018

WEEKLY GRATITUDE



This week has been a full on week (hence the late post today!). I have been hit by a really wonderful creative bug this week; if you are a creative type of any kind, you will know what I mean when it comes to this feeling. There is no just sitting, staring at a blank page, waiting for ideas to flow, they are all there waiting to spill out and you can't paint/draw/write fast enough to keep up! For me, days like that don't come along too often, so when they do I lap them up big time! I have created several card designs this week that I will be getting into the shop as soon as finances allow the printing to happen, plus I am well on my way to creating my forth wedding collection for the business too!

Before I get into this post, I want to let you know about a free downloadable print I am still giving away over on Leaf Lane Studio's blog post (see the image below!). I created this piece for Burns Night, because I really love this little quote and so if you are interested in getting your own copy of this then click right here!



Here is what else has been going on...

:: After weeks of feeling like I had hair like Cousin It, I finally made it to the hairdressers (thanks to my official sponsor...my mum xx). I so love having my hair washed and the massage that comes along with that. I'm currently looking for a part time job, so if there are any hairdressers in Cornwall who need to pay someone to practice this on... no? Dammit!

:: I know I mention birds a lot over here, but the birds in our garden our so sweet and I love watching them come down for the seeds and the fat-balls. When they have eaten it all and one of us goes out to refill it, they chirp like crazy to one another and all wait in the trees for their next snack, it is super cute! There a so many robins too, and I am obsessed with robins; their teeny, tiny little legs are so fragile!


:: Being the huge Tudor history geek I am, I have been really enjoying catching up with a programme about Henry VIII and his wives that was on BBC Four recently (I think there may be one more to go if you are interested and it is on iPlayer!). I love history programmes so much and have also been watching the documentaries on Netflix about the Tower of London and various other places, they are really fascinating.

:: On Wednesday I went to a place in Newlyn, called West Cornwall Inner Space, for a healing treatment. It's hard to describe exactly what it was all about, as it was a mixture of different things, but I absolutely loved it. It was all about chakra clearing, using crystals and talking to try and bring up bits and pieces that need 'clearing' in the body. Being someone who has had a lot of therapy in her life it was nice to have something totally different, with someone totally different (beats very serious medical professionals any day!).

:: Whilst I was in Penzance on Thursday (making myself less Cousin It) I picked up my new print, that will be going into my Leaf Lane Studio shop and into my Etsy shop really soon. You guys may have seen it before, as I popped it onto my Instagram recently to say I was thinking about getting it printed up for sale; well I did! It will be going up this week coming so keep an eye open!



:: This morning I decided to head to check out a wedding fair over in Wadebridge. I will be doing my first one this year and so put my 'big girl pants' on and went to have a mooch. I have to say that I was pretty terrified; it was sensory overload, what with the disco lights, screens showing wedding videos and slightly crazy looking piano playing man, but it was well worth pushing out the comfort zone to see what to expect! Small victories huh?!

:: I have been a bit off track with my 'diet' and training over the last couple of weeks, but have still been going to train anyway and just doing what my brain and body could handle. This week I trained five times, but twice with one of my gym buddies and he certainly put me through my paces (I couldn't even lift the kettle after the first session!). It was so awesome to be pushed a bit more than usual and also to realise I could lift 40kg on the bench press, granted it wasn't for many reps, but it still counts right?!

:: I got a lovely surprise gift this week from Joe, a copy of the Kyle Gray 'Light Warrior' book, his newest book out, and so far it is really great! I love Kyle Grays style (I mention him a lot I know!), but I always come away from his books feeling inspired, motivated and like I am on the right path!

(***Mum, you should not read this... you have been warned!***)
:: Way back last year, when I was about to launch my business, I mentioned that I wanted to get a new tattoo to commemorate achieving the goal of launching the business. The tattoo I wanted was a really small crescent moon to represent positive energy, creativity, growth and the duality of our human nature. I am still planning on getting it but have also been considering another one, this time on my ribs again. I got my first tattoo on my left ribs; glyphs that mean 'challenge, transform, transcend', and I am still so in love with them; they are only thin black lines and that is all I want with my new idea of wildflowers. For me, wildflowers represent something fragile, yet strong, that can thrive in almost any environment, no matter how hard they are pushed or how many times they are challenged (plus I think they are super pretty). I have been looking around for suitable artists to get a quote from and found someone in Truro who would be perfect, so email my two ideas off for a price this week (I may as well get the moon done at the same time because it is super small!). As it's my birthday next month (cough cough, midlife crisis, cough cough!) I figured there is no harm in asking is there? Anyway, I have my Pinterest board that has a load of ideas on for this, so head over to it if you fancy a peek!

:: Gizmo has been even more cute than normal this week, wanting many cuddles and playing in a box that has been on the floor by my desk like an over enthusiastic toddler! I really couldn't be without that little bear, she is everything in the world and more to me!

That is it for this week lovely people, I hope you have enjoyed your weekend and have a week full of fun ahead! See you on Wednesday for another blog post! <3

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24 January 2018

WASTE NOTHING, NOT EVEN PAIN



A few weeks ago, whilst listening to an episode of Oprah's Super Soul Podcast, where she was chatting to Elizabeth Gilbert (who I love!), I heard something that really resonated in my mind and thought I would write a bit about it today and see what you guys think. Whilst talking about several significant, life changing events Gilbert said '...if we don't transform from suffering, it's just wasted pain...' and that one sentence hit me so hard, speaking such huge volumes to me, that I had to write it down immediately and really dig into the reason that it had such an impact. 

In many ways I guess that the reason those words struck me so hard is because I feel like I am in exactly that mindset right now in my life, where I no longer want to go through any crappy times without learning something about myself or achieving a sense of growth through the pain. As I thought about Elizabeth Gilberts words I started to think about how much I have altered the way I get through something difficult when it shows up in my life now, in contrast to how I may have handled it years ago. If I am totally honest with you, I have only started to shift my mindset since the age of about 34, and I am 37 next month, so it is a relatively new thing for me.

I used to see each challenging time in my life as 'the end of the world'; feeling like my life as I knew it was over and I couldn't face another day (it was all very dramatic!). I didn't ever see that there may be a reason for something happening to me or think for a moment about a possible pattern of 'life-lessons' that may be happening. Things just 'happened', I got upset, down and, after quite a lengthy period of feeling sorry for myself, I just carried on exactly as I had been before. These days, although I may still have the really down moments, where I am unable to see the wood for the trees, there is a monumental difference in many of my thought processes through a challenging or painful experience. I am not saying for one moment that in the middle of a crisis I am some serene, sage burning hippy; usually the opposite is true, but given some time and a little perspective (over a day or two), I definitely see that a situation has happened 'for me', rather than 'to me'. 

I think the only way to survive an emotional crisis is to really think through it all and take out of it any lessons, mistakes and reasons things have happened, and open yourself up to it all in an honest and vulnerable way. This is something that takes real bravery to do because most of us don't want to admit our faults and our wrongs but this is true growth (in my opinion anyway). Sometimes we have to be utterly 'stripped back' to see who we are and sometimes we won't like what we see or what we have to do to move forward, but surely it is better to have a little bit of time where things are hard, maybe even painful, but come out the other side of it happier and stronger, then it is to be stagnant and not move forward because of the perceived fear of pain?

We can't always choose when and how we suffer (I mean, we just wouldn't choose to suffer would we?) but in order to grow we have to be challenged in our lives. I think the important thing is that we don't let it chip away at our spirit, leaving us bitter and angry at life; someone too scarred by life experiences to want to take new risks or open their heart up to new love or friendships. Like Elizabeth Gilbert said, we have to transform from our suffering or else the pain will win and we end up wasting one of our most precious gifts, that of time, and that would be crazy. 
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21 January 2018

WEEKLY GRATITUDE



Firstly let me say happy National Hug Day; today is a day to grab someone you care about (or a pet of course!) and give them a big old hug!

Last Sunday I didn't manage to get a gratitude post up (sorry guys) but I am back today and including a few things that I typed up ready for last week, as well as some bits from this week too, so let's jump right on into it shall we?

:: One things I vowed to do this year is to try new things art-wise so, with the excuse of wanting to create something for my Instagram page for National Hug Day, I thought I would experiment with drawing something in Photoshop (you can see the result of my very first attempt below!). I actually sketched this little bear on a piece of scrap paper first, scanned it in and then began the process of drawing over the top of my scanned layer. I am super pleased with it and happy I decided to give it a shot! There is plenty of room for improvement, but what do you think? I also did a little watercolour illustration for Winnie the Pooh Day, which was also this week; you can see that painting over on this weeks Leaf Lane Studio blog post!



:: How is it that I have never listened to Heart 80's before? It is bloody amazing. There is no more to be said! What is your favourite radio station? I love a good recommendation (although it will need to be good to take me away from Heart 80's to be honest!).

:: Last Thursday was a beautiful day here in Cornwall. The sun was gorgeous and made everything seem better, brighter and full of hope (isn't it wonderful what a bit of bright light can do?!). Having a cup of tea in the garden at lunch time and watching the robins squabbling over the bird food was a particular highlight of the warmer weather!

:: This week I started throwing a bit of watercolour about, trying to get several ideas out on paper that have been floating around in my head for a while now. I am currently using lots of different shades of yellow and layering it up, letting it dry in puddles and bleed out into whatever space it wants to. I like the process of trusting how the paint will move and come to rest. I am excited to share some of the new bits and bobs I'm working on with you soon. Painting is one of the few things that allows my mind to totally reset and rest, I can't live without it.



:: Last weekend, whilst the sun was out (which hasn't happened much recently), I took a walk up to the little village church. It is such a beautiful place, really small and intimate, with stunning views out to the coast and over to some fields in the distance. I have always found strolling quietly around a churchyard a really cleansing and reflective process; just taking time to be totally present in that moment, reading the words on the various stones and allowing whatever emotions surface to just come out. It sounds a bit depressing and, I guess if you let it be, then it will be, but I just like to contemplate life and also what the world would have been like for the people laid to rest there (some way back in 1700's). It makes me so grateful for what I have in my life right now.

:: I am really enjoying the new series of The Goldbergs at the moment; it is one of those programmes that makes me laugh out loud and I really love it! There aren't many things I will sit down to purposefully watch, but this one I will make time for (because laughter is a good thing!). I'm also really into the SAS programme on Channel 4, what about you guys, what has got you gripped right now?

:: I think I mentioned before that I made an effort, over New Year, to put together a content planner for my blog and my business too. It has felt so good this week to be one step ahead of myself in terms of posts and other pre-planned bits and bobs too. Obviously I will still be writing about things as and when they need to be said, where relevant and where the mood takes me but, for things that I can schedule and set up in advance my plan is working really well. I am so happy I spent a few hours over New Year to put it together and will certainly keep it going.



:: This week a whole load of daffodils have opened up in the garden and it makes me so happy! Daffodils and narcissus are my favourites and I just feel so very content when they are all over the garden, in the shops and growing on the side of the road (as they always are here in Cornwall). Their bright yellow colour can just change my mood instantly (I think I have a bit of a thing for yellow right now... bring on the summer!).

:: Wonderful friends... I don't have a huge amount of close friends but the ones I have are pretty great and have really been there for me recently and I really appreciate that (a lot). Sometimes there is nothing that can be said to help a situation, but just getting the occasional message to check in makes the world of difference... thanks guys (you know who you are) xx

That is all for this week; see you back here on Wednesday for the mid-week post! Have a great week everyone!
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17 January 2018

EMBRACING SILENCE



Silence; it's a much needed thing for our souls, yet so many of us, including me, deny ourselves much (if any) of it. 

Our modern way of living is amazing, but one of the big downsides has to be that we are so addicted to our devices, so used to having constant stimulation via various different mediums, that we don't know what to do when the noise stops. I noticed at some point last year how hard I found it to be without my 'digital company'. I rely on my phone for a constant distraction of videos, podcasts and streaming to keep me company, but as soon as it hit me how much noise I need with me to feel 'safe' I started to unpick the reasons why this behaviour was happening. 

Having noise wherever I go had become a way of coping, a way of not having to think about things that were bothering me or worrying me, and I would carry my phone from room to room with me to have that constant escapism. My anxiety increased if I couldn't find something to play in the background and that, quite frankly, is insane. Since when had this been 'a thing' I did, a thing I needed? I had become afraid of feeling whatever emotions my body wanted me to feel, I was pushing it all back and forcing my brain to focus on something else, building upon my anxiety more and more so that, when I did finally have silence, I basically crumbled. Does anyone else recognise this behaviour? 

Being quiet is a brave thing to do in a world with so much noise and with everything happening at such as fast pace everywhere we turn. Being silent during the day, especially when life isn't 'all roses' can bring up extreme emotional vulnerability, fear, anxiety (and tears), but dealing with those things has to be better than pushing them back down and eventually reaching empty in your emotional tank. 

Part of the reason I embarked on my two day fast was to try and reset and re-calibrate my mind and my body and try to spend some time 'listening' and time just being quiet. I wanted to try and hear what my body wanted, what it needed and not just my body; my mind and spirit too. I felt like I'd pushed a ton of emotional crap up the steepest hill and I was ready to stop. As someone who reads a lot of spiritual books and listens to many podcasts on the same subject, I had heard that doing a short fast could help to bring you more 'in tune' with your body and spirit again, so I figured why not! For me, part of that process involved clearing my diary for those days (as far as possible anyway) and just trying to quieten everything down a notch. It was important that I got out in nature and just walked, that I did some mobilisation and some yoga as well as some guided meditations too, plus the extra secret ingredient of sleep! 

How do you guys feel about the amount of 'noise' in your everyday existence? Do you feel like you could benefit from taking a conscious step back too? 
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10 January 2018

48 HOURS OF MADNESS?



This time last week, the first Wednesday of 2018, I did something I have never done before, a fast (I can almost hear my mum saying 'oh my God, you never told me this information'... no mum, because you would have freaked out!). 

I'll start by saying that I really don't agree with fasting for long periods of time for 'diet' reasons. 'So why did you do it' I hear you ask! Well, at risk of coming across like I've lost all my marbles, I did it because I was following my intuition and what I had come to me during a meditation. It is hard to describe how somethings appear in your head isn't it, but sometimes you just have to go with it. I can guarantee that one of the farthest things from my mind at any given time is going without food (I love food... too much!) but I had a feeling I should take a step back, to re-calibrate and reset, for my mind more than my body. I had this come to me more than once and, as I am trying to lean into my intuition more this year, I decided to listen. I must admit though, doing something drastic, just because you 'feel' it's what you are 'meant' to do is a bit... well, strange to some. If you are the type of person who is always getting 'signs' and things just popping into your head, then you will get it, but otherwise you may feel like it is all a little 'woo-woo', and that is fair enough.

Alongside the fast, I was feeling like I was meant to step back from the usual routine in general, which meant no gym (probably wise given I'd be running on empty anyway), and take some time to journal, read, nap if I needed and mediate a little more. So, I trusted the pull (well, my word of the year is 'trust' after all), hoped that I would get some kind of epiphany (!) and went for it, telling only a couple of people close to me; purely in-case I started to go a little insane! 

My plan was to have 48 hours of purely water or the (ever so yummy) mixture I have in the mornings of lemon, apple cider vinegar and honey and then do 24 hours on green juices and snack on fruit and veg. Don't judge me, it's just what I thought felt right. I am happy to say that the first day and a half went well. Thanks to having a little honey in some of my drinks, I felt pretty 'switched on', all things considered. After 36 hours I started to feel a bit rubbish but I kept on going and made it to the end of the two day mark fairly easily. I then made myself a green juice and decided I had got enough out of the 48 hours and really couldn't stomach another day of kermit-coloured beverages!

All that in mind, I guess you may want to know if I got anything out of it spiritually, seeing as that was kind of the point; I would say that I did. My journey into learning to quiet my mind during meditation is a new one, and learning to listen more to any messages that come through when I am in a more quiet and still state of mind is something I am consciously working on this year but, it has to be said that, being more present within any specific moment is not something I am good at. My mind is always jabbering on at a million miles an hour and so, when I had this urge to do the fast, part of what I felt I was meant to get from it was a stillness. It was almost like I was forced to slow down my thinking, purely through the lack of food reducing my cognitive ability, especially by day two. Towards the end of the second day I sat in several meditations and did a slow yoga practice, and it was at this point in the process that I seemed to get several thoughts pop into my head, which I later journalled about; I can share just one of the things with you here (but the other things were personal to be so I won't be sharing those).

One of the biggest things that came up for me was my relationship surrounding food. I have always had many issues with food and, whilst I have never experienced an eating disorder, I would certainly admit to it being a huge contributing factor to some of the mental health struggles I have had. Christmas time always messes up my mind because, like the rest of us, I like to indulge in (all) the treats, eating way too much and my portion sizes go crazy too. Aside from Christmas I do give myself a really hard time about food and it is something I have been trying to find a healthy balance with for many years. The fast seemed to come along as a reset, like I have already mentioned, but also just as a way of reminding me that I don't need food as an emotional comfort blanket, I don't gain anything, mentally and spiritually speaking, by eating big portions or not listening to my body tell me it's not hungry and then stuffing my face anyway. Having started counting macros again since the fast, I can honestly say that I have had a serious word with myself about food and am journalling several thoughts surrounding helping my mindset stay balanced, so I would say that I gained some insight by following what I felt I needed to do in terms of this specific subject.

All in all I am happy that I listened to my intuition as what I got out of the experience was certainly worth it for me. I think that consciously taking the time to plan out two whole days of meditation, writing and yoga helped me get through the time and also made me a little more aware of the importance of self-care too. If you guys have any helpful advice, recommendations or insights about fasting for spiritual reasons then do get in touch with me or leave me a comment below, I am honestly really keep to learn more and to find out what journeys people have been on with fasting and what gets discovered along the way.
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7 January 2018

WEEKLY GRATITUDE



Happy Sunday from a very sunny (and chilly) Cornwall! Finally the clouds have cleared, the storms have ceased and we are back to blue skies again. It is proper winter weather right now, which I don't mind too much, apart from trying to warm up in the gym at silly o'clock in the morning! How are you guys?

I'm going to get straight into today's 'Weekly Gratitude' as there is quite the list of things!

:: To kick start 2018 I decided to make a little bit of time each day for short meditation and contemplation practice. About a month ago I got myself a copy of a book by Kyle Gray, called 'Raise Your Vibration: 111 Practices to Increase Your Spiritual Connection', which has 111 daily practices you can do to help you improve your spiritual awareness. This week I kick started those practices and have been really enjoying having one thing to focus on throughout the day. If you are into your angels/spiritual reading and information, then you should certainly check out Kyle Gray, he is a wonderful inspiration.

:: On the subject of meditation, the picture below is of Gizmo, splayed out on my hip during my half an hour meditation practice yesterday. She totally zonked out, keeping me nice and warm throughout the whole thing. I was then stuck until she woke up of course, which meant I was forced to take a nap! What a life!



:: I went to the gym on New Years Day and, although it was absolutely rammed with people, I managed to workout and not freak out! I am super grateful that I have such lovely gym-friends and that I am able to push through my anxieties a little more these days.

:: Speaking of working out, I seem to have another flare up from a deep muscle within my glute/hip; every now and then it just decides that it needs to let me know it is there and makes its presence felt by being sore for a while. Seeing as, these days, I try and have my sensible head on, I decided to take two whole days off training this week to rest my injury. On Thursday evening I felt like a nice drop of slow yoga would be just what the doctor ordered, so I had a spontaneous date with my favourite YouTube yoga lady, Adriene, from the awesome channel 'Yoga with Adriene'. If you fancy yoga, but have never found the time, then there is no excuse with Adrienes channel because she really has a session for everyone. The one I chose (actually, it jumped out at me!) was 'Cosy Yoga' and it was just what I needed in that moment. I put my yoga pants on and a giant jumper and went through the routine feeling super chilled out by the end. I love the way that Adriene teaches and, in the 'Cosy Yoga' episode, she is even joined by her cute dog, Benji!

:: Using a bit of my Christmas money I ordered two pairs of gym pants from Forever 21 and they arrived this week. Of all the gym wear I have, these specific leggings are my favourite (even when compared to more expensive brands). They are super comfortable, have lovely thick waist bands and wash beautifully. Better still, they are affordable (I also caught a 30% off active wear sale so they were even more of a bargain). The leggings I got, in-case you are interested are called the 'Active High Waisted Leggings' and I got some in red and in teal (the teal are my favourites!). For reference, I am a 12-14 and I get large as I find their sizes can come up small.


:: I came home from the gym one morning this week and had a little wander about the garden, just looking at the way the light was catching the frost and the dew drops on the leaves and plants. These quiet little moments are so wonderful.

:: I have felt so grateful for the people who have purchased my printable calendar recently. You guys need to know that it means the world to me that you are spending your money on something that I have created. I hope you are enjoying it! If you guys want to buy the calendar then just click right here to go to Leaf Lane Studio!

:: Thank you to everyone who gave me feedback this week on what size print you would prefer to buy. The results actually came back pretty evenly split between A4 and A5's, so I am going to mull it over a little longer but I think that, ultimately, there will be a mixture of sizes available (over time). I really appreciate every single person who took the time to vote on Instagram or leave me a comment or message. You are the best! (The print below will be heading into my shop in the next couple of weeks!).



:: On Friday, whilst mooching about on iTunes for a new, inspirational podcast to add to my list (of already way too many to keep up with!) I stumbled on Oprah Winfrey's SuperSoul Sunday podcast. I have to confess that I am not a huge Oprah fan; I don't really know why, but I just haven't ever been 'on board' with getting to know more about her but this week I found myself hooked to SuperSoul Sunday episodes and am now subscribed for more. On Friday I listened to the two part episode with Elizabeth Gilbert, who I love, and her voice alone just makes me feel content. It's one of those episodes where I was scribbling down quotes as I worked, because there was lots of juicy things to take away from it! Have a listen and let me know what you think!

:: I'm not a huge TV watcher (because I am always doing something else whilst a TV show is on) but I really enjoyed the new series on ITV this week, called 'Girlfriends', did anyone see it? I highly recommend you catch up with it and give it a go. It has those moments where something is super tragic, yet bloody funny at the same time!

:: On Thursday I took a drive over to St Just to go to the Kurt Jackson gallery. Some of you guys may know that Jackson is one of my favourite artists (I have many, but in terms of landscapes and seascapes he is way up there for me). I love how layered his work is and the fact that you can see so much of his process within the pieces. They had a couple of his sketchbooks on the first floor of the gallery too which, for me, are so much more interesting than the finished pieces of work. For once though, I actually had a good reason to visit the gallery, other than just because it makes me happy! I am about to embark on creating some original paintings for a lovely friend and I wanted to be inspired to paint landscapes again, because it has been a while; I am excited to get started!

:: Yesterday I decided to take an impromptu walk to take some pictures of the sunset; the sky was a perfect mixture of light clouds and clear, open sky and so off I went along the coast path that looks out to St Michael's Mount, and waited for the sun to dip. I adore sunsets, they make me emotional and put me in a contemplative mood. I just love how no two are the same and how the light softens everything around you and nature takes on a quiet, more magical atmosphere bathed in pink light. The sunsets here in Cornwall are absolutely gorgeous and I will never get bored of seeing them.

Thank you for stopping by and reading today's post, I always appreciate you taking the time to be here and value everyone who pops by! Feel free to say 'hi' in the comments, I would also love to know where abouts in our beautiful world you are! Let me know :-)

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3 January 2018

INTERESTED VERSES COMMITTED



Last week I listened to a Lori Harder 'Earn Your Happy' podcast episode, called 'How to move from interested to committed' and, whilst I am often inspired by things I listen to, this episode in particular really made me sit up and take notice. Within this short 'minisode' was just what I was needing to hear at that very moment and it was like my spirit just knocked on my brain and said 'right Lucy, pay attention to this please!' (do you get moments like that?).

Before I go into the reason why it jumped out at me, I should say this: over the last couple of months I have been feeling super anxious, unable to really get stuck into work or concentrate at all really. I have been utterly worn out mentally and feeling like all my 'reserves' are completely depleted. All of those feelings meant that my creative inspiration had all but dried up; I was getting so frustrated with myself for feeling the way I was and being unable to focus on anything but my anxiety. Having been forced to take a step back (by my body as well as it being the festive season) I started to feel a bit more 'myself' again and so, when I listened to the podcast, and heard Lori enthusiastically chatting about how to really 'up your game', I felt the timing was perfect for me to jump in and adsorb some inspiration again. 

In essence, what Lori is talking about is the difference between the language of being interested, verses that of being committed, for example, someone who is 'interested' in their goals will use language like '...someday I would like to...' or '...one day I may...'. ' She discusses that the language behind being 'interested' is often accompanied with excuses and obstacles; always leaving a way out as an option, rather than jumping right in. I think that, as adults, so many of us have the 'language of interested', especially around things that involve a lot of effort to achieve, such as health and fitness goals. We are often 'starting on Monday' and will try and find an excuse not to go to do some exercise, 'it's dark/cold/late/raining' etc. What makes it more silly is that we are then often surprised that we haven't achieved whatever the thing is we wanted.

In contrast, and much more positive in nature, is the language of committed. The language of committed is the 'I can' and 'I will' and is so much more solution based. Lori makes a point about how people who adopt the committed vocabulary will see any difficulties as lessons for self development and growth, rather than reasons to give something up, and that is certainly something I am on board with! She uses an analogy by Tony Robbins, saying that when you are committed it is like being on an island and 'burning all your boats', not leaving one safety net there, just hopping right on in fully. Is it scary, hell yes it is, but it gives us so much more doing things this way. 

I loved this podcast episode because it sums up the way I really want to be in all areas of my life; 100% all in and unafraid of facing new challenges. If I'm totally honest, towards the end of 2017, I did lose my way, often finding myself in the 'interested' camp of 'maybe later' and 'I'll do that tomorrow'. I was burnt out, tired and that made me a little lazy (something I very much strive to avoid being) but mostly I just felt overwhelmed and anxious so it was easier to do the things that I knew how to do and put off the things that are new or take a bit more effort. Thankfully those sorts of times are few and far between, but listening to the podcast made me realise where I was and where I wanted to be, even if it is a little scarier because, like Lori says '...if you want to be committed, you must be prepared to feel uncomfortable' and that is something that takes bravery.

What do you think guys? Where would you place yourselves right now: interested or committed? Check out the episode and tell me your thoughts in the comments.
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