27 September 2017

YOU ARE NOT AN IMPOSTER


This morning, whilst doing my mandatory half an hour of cardio after my weights session, I did what I do every morning to pass the time and threw on a podcast (that way I feel like I am learning whilst I am dying of boredom on the step-mill!). This mornings choice was Lola Hoad's One Girl Band Podcast on Imposter Syndrome and, whilst I have listened to my fair share of podcasts about 'how to deal with feeling like an imposter', this one just jolted me, in a positive way! Before I tell you the quote that made me smile and made me just think 'oh... we all feel like this at some stage then', I just want to recommend you listen to Lola's podcast because it really is a great one!

Towards the end of the episode, Lola mentions a quote she saw from author Neil Gaiman and I really wanted to share it with you because it made me smile and feel a little less concerned about the cloud of 'not good enough' that can follow us all about!

'... Some years ago, I was lucky enough to be invited to a gathering of great and good people: artists and scientists, writers and discoverers of things.  And I felt that at any moment they would realise that I didn’t qualify to be there, among these people who had really done things.

On my second or third night there, I was standing at the back of the hall, while a musical entertainment happened, and I started talking to a very nice, polite, elderly gentleman about several things, including our shared first name. And then he pointed to the hall of people, and said words to the effect of, “I just look at all these people, and I think, what the heck am I doing here? They’ve made amazing things. I just went where I was sent.”

And I said, “Yes. But you were the first man on the moon. I think that counts for something.”

And I felt a bit better. Because if Neil Armstrong felt like an imposter, maybe everyone did. Maybe there weren’t any grown-ups, only people who had worked hard and also got lucky and were slightly out of their depth, all of us doing the best job we could, which is all we can really hope for.'


Looking in, from an outsiders perspective, it is so clear that we all think the other person is doing just fine and is totally confident and self-assured but I think this quote just proves the opposite is true! If bloody amazing Neil Armstrong felt like an imposter, yet still managed to fly about in space and step foot on the moon then, surely, we can tell those little imposter-devils-on-our-shoulders to sod off when they show up and be the best we can be doing what we do?! Above all we need to continue to help one another realise how awesome we all are and build one another up because there really is way to much negativity out there! Community over competition and all that!
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2 comments

  1. OK so this has made me feel a million times better! If Neil Armstrong has felt like an imposter in that kind of situation, I think we're all fine! X

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  2. Well you have brought a whole load of light and taken a whole load of doubt off my shoulders today Lucy. Thank you so much and I'm off to take a look at the podcast too.
    Peta xx

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