20 January 2016

'JUMPING IN' #2 | GETTING STARTED

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Welcome back to my new blog series 'Jumping In'. If you are wondering what on Earth 'Jumping In' is all about then you should stop reading this post for a second and have a quick catch up with the first post I wrote in this series, you can find that right here.

It is hard to sit down and write about something you are still going through, but it is also extremely cathartic to do so, because it helps you realise how far you have come, which is a useful thing for me as it is such a slow process! Today, I thought I would write about the many excuses I made not to do this before now because, although it may seem a bit of a negative subject, I am hoping it will resonate with someone and maybe even give you a push to start.

Let's do this.

1 :: Not knowing where to start
This must be a huge barrier for a lot of people I think, especially if you are embarking on a project or business idea on your own. The easy part is the day-dreaming part, the part where you imagine how amazing it is all going to be and how your life will be when you achieve everything you have dreamed of. (As a side note, I have done this for years and years and FYI, nothing actually changes unless you do something about it!). The remedy to this is to tell people your idea and brainstorm it out with a friend or someone who is in business that will understand how it feels to begin a new venture. If the thing you want to do is start a blog, reach out to your favourite bloggers and ask questions, get inspired, then get on-line and start a blog. 

I was super lucky as I was able to work with a business/lifestyle coach, who I have mentioned many times on here, Gemma Sands. Gemma asked me so many questions in our first couple of sessions and, honestly, mostly my answers were 'I don't know' or 'I haven't thought about it yet'. She really forced me to think about the what's, why' and how's and allowed me to see that starting anywhere was better than not starting at all.

2 :: Feeling overwhelmed
I guess this kind of comes along hand in hand with point one. If you don't know where to start it is very easy to feel overwhelmed. For example, with my new business-to-be, I know how to make art work, I have a degree in art, I have all I need to physically make the work, but what I didn't know (and am still learning) is how to get that 'print ready'. I also have no idea how to file a tax return or what it is like to work for myself. All of these things are extremely scary and easily overwhelming (let alone all there is to get sorted before you launch!), but they are also a little exciting, if you let them be. In the last 12 months I have realised that the fear of not doing this venture is bigger than the fear of doing it and that counts for a whole lot!

3 :: Not knowing how to do everything
Another point linked to the ones above is that you are never going to know how to do everything needed to get going. I feel that this is pretty true for most ventures; there will always be something you are not sure of. If Gemma is reading this, she will verify that I was paralysed with fear and doubt for so many things because, as an extreme perfectionist, I felt I should know how to do it all. It is part of who I am to set very high goals for myself and forget to set mini ones that are more achievable along the way. One of the big things I have learnt from Gemma, and all the podcasts I listen to, is that you cannot start something already being an expert in every aspect of it! This comes with time, practice and experience (which also includes failure!). Honestly, everything I was super worried about that had stopped me doing this project were absolutely fine when I actually did them. When I think on where I could be at now if I had just got the hell on with it,...it could easily drive me nuts :-)

4 :: Feeling not good enough
I am going to keep this section short and simple. Too much comparison is unhealthy. I will write a whole blog post on this soon as it has been a huge topic of pondering for me this last 18 months or so. I am almost there in my head with it and will share my thoughts soon. Just stop comparing! Everyone's work, whatever it is and however you like to do it, is valid. That's it.

5 :: Having no time
This is still unresolved for me. When you want to start something and, let's say, you have a full time job, or a family to look after, no-one is going to suddenly knock on your door and give you a miracle (I have prayed for this, trust me!). It is hard. It is a HUGE struggle. In the name of honesty here, I still have weeks at a time where I do nothing to further my business goals, then days of relentless, inspired work. I have come to realise that I just need to move my backside. Sometimes I can do it, sometimes I can't do it at all, but I am trying not to give myself a hard time when I can't and just remember that I have started and that is everything to me.

6 :: Feeling exhausted
I get up at 5am most days, drive an hour to work, work all day, drive an hour home, go to the gym, cook dinner, go to bed and repeat this process over and over. When the weekend comes around I feel dead to the world. As I said above, sometimes I have lots of lazy days and sometimes I am working away for hours, but it is a slow process when you have other commitments and it is bloody tiring. I try and keep in my mind the reason I am doing it and what I want at the end of it, because nothing is changing unless I make the change. I have to feel more tired to be less tired (hopefully that makes sense!) and if I want a better lifestyle, where I am the boss, then this process must continue. I think it is all about setting things up to make it more fun along the way too and, let's face it, if you are totally committed and passionate about whatever it is you want to do then hopefully the fun part will always be there.

There you have it, my list of reasons why it took me so darn long to get off my butt and move forward. Have yours been the same to? It would be great to share thoughts in the comments.
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  1. I always find that getting started is the hardest part in doing anything! Good on you for taking the jump :)

    Hollie | hollieshighlights.blogspot.co.uk

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    1. You are so right honey, it is truly the hardest part! Thank you for your encouragement, it means a lot :-)

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